#NotMe, but I Stand With The Family of Women

Women have found their voice, and damn it’s loud. And solid. And proud. And it brooks no doubt or slander or thrown tomatoes. We’re finally standing strong and solid with arms bound and spirits raised. We’re finished with all forms of subjugation to men.

It took us awhile.

In my mind the very first brave woman was Anita Hill during the Clarence Thomas vetting for the Supreme Court. She took backlash and whiplash and everything else, but she held fast and honorable to her values.

And no one listened. Not even women.

While other questionable male entitlement came out over time, I don’t remember other women standing up. As far as I know Monica Lewinsky never said a thing.

But then we saw the sheer number of women accusing Bill Cosby—and oh man, did that hurt. Really? Bill Cosby? America’s favorite dad? My heart still cries with that one. But I’ve come to terms with what I wish to be true versus what is likely true.

Today we’re hearing women’s voices, from politics to entertainment to business. Some people wonder if all of them are credible. Some people, even women, think it’s all just some silliness they need to get over.

#NotMe. #NotEverAgain.


It’s all better with friends.





Author: Peg Brantley

With the intent to lend her stories credibility, award winning author Peg Brantley is a graduate of the Aurora Citizens’ Police Academy, attended the Writers’ Police Academy conference, has interviewed crime scene investigators, FBI agents, human trafficking experts, obtained her Concealed Carry Permit, studied diverse topics from arson dogs to Santeria, and hunted down real life locations that show up in her stories.

19 thoughts on “#NotMe, but I Stand With The Family of Women”

  1. Powerful, Peg, and it needs to be said. When I was a young newlywed in the 1970s beginning my working life the behavior seemed a part of the culture. Women not only had to learn how to say no nicely but to say it in such a way that the offender felt it was his idea. Ego stroke all the way. If you weren’t able to manage that sleight of hand trick-you were out of a job or in a position you didn’t want to be. It was an exhausting tap dance. Worse, women were supposed to be flattered by the attention and the consequences of an outright refusal were clear. I’d like to think times have changed, but I’m not sure they have…yet. Looks like they are on the way.

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    1. I had my first “real” job in the 70’s. I confess to deciding a couple of times that playing innocent and ignorant and moving quickly away was better than rejection or confrontation. And today, I know of at least one woman who continues to be flattered by that kind of attention. I haven’t been able to understand what exactly she’s thinking.

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    1. I hope that wave continues. Crashing down a few male perceptions wouldn’t be a bad thing. I’m blessed to be married to a man who is kind of perplexed by the enormity of the problem. Like many of us, he had no clue.


    1. You and me and the rest of us. I think a lot of people are simply shocked at the magnitude. And I have this mental image of bastions of power, or presumed-power, being a little nervous right now wondering if they are going to be called out.


  2. The sad thing is that almost every woman at some time in her life has had has had “unwanted advances,” some more traumatic than others. At least now, FINALLY, people are listening.
    An absolutely fabulous book that deals with this topic is “Young Jane Young” by Gabrielle Zevin. I heard her speak a couple of weeks ago, and she was very thought-provoking. I read “Young Jane Young, and saw many, many similar examples in politics and life today. I recommend the book; the story starts right with the cover. I even bought a copy for my daughter. And, I HIGHLY recommend going to hear Zevin speak if she is in your area.
    I reviewed “Young Jane Young” on “Looks at Books,” and here is the direct link https://3no7.wordpress.com/2017/08/24/young-jane-young/

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