Release From What’s Holding Us Back

Every one of us has something that’s holding us back. Maybe it’s a comment a critical teacher made in grade school, or an insult that cut particularly deep. Maybe it’s the lack of belief from our immediate families, or the judgment of our coworkers, or the fear that we can’t so what we’re trying to do so why bother. Its’ there, like a shadow lurking over our shoulder, ready and willing to give us the excuse to give up.

But what if we were able to let go? To shut out the critical voices and just dance like no one is watching? (or paint or write or sing or whatever it is you do). That’s the spirit of creativity: tuning out the noise and expressing what is inside of us without fear of judgment.

I’ve had my share of criticism. We all have. There’s a comfort in that knowledge, that nobody gets what they want overnight, and that everybody has obstacles. We can’t change the minds of those who think we can’t do what we want, but we can learn to tune out the voices and do it anyway.

The haters are going to hate. But in the inimitable words of Taylor Swift, we just have to shake it off.

Diane Vallere | @dianevallere


Author: Diane Vallere

Diane is the author of four mystery series. Like her character Samantha Kidd, she is a former fashion buyer; like her character Madison Night, she loves Doris Day movies, like her character Polyester Monroe, she lives in California; and like her character Margo Tamblyn, she has a thing for costumes. Find out more at

13 thoughts on “Release From What’s Holding Us Back”

  1. Shake it off is perfect advise. My theory is writer’s block is really fear. Of course we can write. Right now I’m working on a couple of little short stories, kind of palette cleansers between revising the book. I don’t expect anyone to see them except my writing group. The one I’m doing now is completely a pantser. How exciting to write as if no one is looking!


  2. Thanks, all! I think sometimes it’s fear and sometimes it’s criticism that we take too personally. I’ve heard so many stories about teachers who told students they shouldn’t write. I’ve had my own share of people telling me this was a pipe dream, not reality, so I know we’ve all heard it somehow. So yes–we have to do it to prove everybody wrong!


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